Don't hate someone. It's too expensive.

on the road of life, there is a sea of people coming and going.

We always meet all kinds of people, but not all of us meet each other, and we always meet a lot of annoying people.

at this time, if we struggle with annoying people, it not only consumes energy, but also may hurt our health.

Schopenhauer once said:

if you don't like others, you are actually punishing yourself in disguise.

Don't hate someone, it's too expensive.

01

hates a person, Zhao Yanzi, the protagonist in the TV series "wrong hate", lives in dislike of the people around her all her life.

Zhao Yanzi's husband died a few years ago because of an accident. This made her lose her support in an instant. She had to raise two children and continue to work in the factory.

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as a result, her temperament has changed greatly, and she is always unhappy at work. She has not only lost her pacesetter, but also failed to get a house. Everyone else has got a raise, but her salary has been unable to rise.

she thought that it was all because Director Tian was deliberately messing with her, and she didn't have a good face to Director Tian all day, and she scolded people every time they met.

however, no matter how much she scolded, the director of the factory seemed to be nothing, but she became more and more bitter and bitter.

later, the daughter of Director Tian passed it on to her son.

she passed on this disgust to Director Tian's daughter. It is both sarcastic and sarcastic about this daughter-in-law, and people are not allowed to live without a day's rest.

in her eyes, her son is unfilial and married to a friend's daughter, but daughter-in-law is even more disagreeable.

all she seems to do every day is her dislike of others.

but she doesn't live better because she hates others, but the more she lives, the more she wrings.

finally, I got a sudden heart attack and was admitted to the hospital.

had it not been for Zhao Yanzi's own obsession with other people and soaked into her own bones, she would not have ruined her mood as well as her own body.

We come to the world for a walk. if we spend our energy on hating others every day, how can we have the energy to love ourselves?

there is a saying on the Internet:

not all people can satisfy our values. Sometimes we hate a person, maybe just because we are in a different environment and stand in a different position.

the more you experience, the more you will find that even if there is a deep hatred, there is no need to try your best to hate someone.

because the price of hating someone is too high.

in fact, no matter how lucky people are, the people and things they encounter will not be just right.

most people constantly cultivate themselves in all kinds of annoying people and things, so that they will accept them calmly even if they don't like them.

this is not a sign of weakness, but a fulfillment of oneself.

02

I hate others and punish myself

A netizen on Zhihu told a story.

she was diagnosed with depression in her third year on the job.

when the doctor asked her if she often sulked, she suddenly realized that she hated a colleague very much and felt inexplicably blocked every time she saw that colleague.

I often struggled in my heart. I always wanted to tear it up with her, but I never had the courage to hold that anger back to my heart.

the reason is that she and her colleagues reported on the same day, and her colleagues rose all the way up from the bottom of the staff to the position of manager now, while she still lingered at the bottom.

the other party knows nothing about her dislike, and those annoying emotions remain in her heart over time, making her body aggrieved.

A lot of times, when we don't like someone, we get used to imagining things in our minds.

but it is these illusory ideas that are most likely to lead themselves into the abyss of emotion, and what they see in their eyes is not satisfactory.

A German professor who once won a Nobel Prize, for some reason, hated Newton so much that even Newton's name became a morbid nuisance.

not only pronounce "Newton" by yourself, but also feel uncomfortable. I am disgusted to see other people write or hear the word "Newton".

during his lecture, if he had to mention Newton's name, he would ask his assistant to write the word Newton on the blackboard. When he finished talking about Newton and turned to go on, he would ask his assistant to erase Newton's name immediately.

between repeated mention and deliberate erasure, he seemed to hate Newton, but in fact he tortured himself.

Kant once said:

everyone will be hated. When you meet someone you hate, it is futile to be angry, angry and feel that he should not exist.

others are still others, but your heart is full of negative energy.

I especially like a passage in Grandma's Quotations:

people who are really mature are not people who can't understand or get used to it, but because they know how to look at it from a different angle, and people suddenly become enlightened.

03

No one in the world is worth hating

to see such a story.

Tom the kitten and Toby both hate their own shadows.

wherever they go, as long as there is sunshine, the shadow will appear.

this makes them so mad that they want to throw their shadows far away, and it's best never to see them again.

but no matter how much they hate shadows, shadows follow them like bodyguards and the sun rises.Just "protect" them.

however, both Tom and Toby have found their own solution:

Tom closes his eyes forever so that he can't see the shadow;

Toby stays in the shadow of something else forever. So there's no shadow.

Tom's solution, which seems to isolate the shadow, is actually deceiving himself and others.

Shadow still exists, but he can't see other good things in life.

Toby's solution seems to be that the shadow disappears, but he can't feel the sun.

Shadow no longer exists, and it can only live in shadow forever.

in fact, when we hate someone, we are more likely to see ourselves in others.

it follows you and haunts you so that you can't get rid of it.

its existence makes you have less sunshine, and it will affect you anytime and anywhere.

you feel uneasy, anxious, and even inexplicably bored, but there's nothing you can do about it.

in fact, there are not many people in life, which are worth hating.

No one in the world is as perfect as RMB, and everyone loves it. Even your own shadow may not be able to make yourself fall in love completely.

so we don't have to hate anyone.

I have seen a particularly touching sentence:

in this way, you will be relieved of your dislike of anyone.

04

for the rest of your life, may you forgive others and let yourself

read:

No matter what the reason why we hate someone, it will leave an indelible wound in our hearts.

when you think of that annoying person, the anger in your heart and on your face will engulf yourself like a storm.

instead of letting yourself fall into the whirlpool of hating others, it is better to jump out of the whirlpool and free your heart.

Life is too short. May you forgive others, let yourself go, and stop paying the price of hating someone.