It is better to turn over a book than to turn a face, and it is better to be angry than to be proud.

01

it is better to turn over a book

A story of Zeng Guofan is recorded in the Bamboo sawdust of the Qing Dynasty.

when he was young, Zeng Guofan took part in the local examination. He lived at Yuelu Academy in Changsha and shared a room with another examinee.

the roommate's desk is some distance from the window. Zeng Guofan wants to move his desk there to facilitate daylighting.

unexpectedly, the roommate suddenly roared:

Zeng Guofan replied helplessly, "then where should I put my desk?" The roommate pointed to the dark side of the bed and said, "you can take this."

Zeng Guofan did not continue to talk back, but moved the table according to his roommate's wishes.

in order to get into the exam state as soon as possible, he sang books late, but was angrily reprimanded by his roommate: "usually I don't work hard, but now I come to make noise when I go to bed, do you still ask people to go to bed?"

Zeng Guofan did not retort, but lowered his voice and continued to read.

soon after, when the local examination list was released, the name of Zeng Guofan was impressively on the list, but his domineering roommate failed.

maybe he was jealous. His roommate banged on the window with his fist and roared:

when Zeng Guofan heard this, he smiled calmly.

Nan Huaijin said in the Analects of Confucius:

those who have the ability are leisurely; those who are incompetent are furious.

as Gumi said in several degrees in the World:

instead of turning his face and losing his temper, it is better to turn a book into a great thing.

Life is a spiritual practice. On the way forward, you can't help but encounter all kinds of bad people and things. Instead of being held back by emotions, it's better to concentrate on reading.

if you have a big mind, you will naturally lose your temper.

02

it's better to be angry.

Zhang Weili, known as China's "best fighting" woman, is China's first UFC world champion.

on March 8, 2020, Zhang Weili met the battle to defend the title, defeated the challenger Joana and won honor for the motherland.

many people only see her aura of glory, but do not know the hardship behind it.

before the match, Poland's Joana was arrogant and provocative, posting a photo on Twitter showing Joana standing behind Zhang Weili, wearing a gas mask to ridicule China suffering from the epidemic.

in the face of the head-on attack, Zhang Weili kept rational and decided to use her strength to KO her opponents on the field to fight for herself and the motherland.

she made a lot of efforts to win the game.

the venue of the competition is set in Las Vegas in the United States. Because of the epidemic, Zhang Weili will travel to three countries in more than ten days.

in order to maintain her strength and physical fitness, she must persist in intensive training and can only sleep four or five hours a day.

what is harder than training is diet control.

Zhang Weili cannot eat carbohydrates, and there is no oil or salt in the food, which is unimaginable to ordinary people.

days in a foreign country, she overcame many difficulties and finally waited for a day to prove herself.

Zhang Weili entered the stadium wearing a five-star red flag. She knows very well that this is a game that can only win and not lose, not only for herself, but also for the honor of her country.

in the star anise cage, she was brave and won the game hard after five rounds of fighting. This precious victory is not only an inspiration to the motherland and people in the epidemic, but also a beautiful response to the cynics.

Xunzi says: "anger is not enough to seize, but joy is not enough."

in the face of provocation, instead of arguing and quarrelling, it is better to refine yourself and fight back.

Zhihu has a question: "how can I not be angry?"

there is a highly praised answer:

A wise man is proud, but a fool is angry.

it is better to be angry than to be angry. It is great wisdom to know how to be calm and keep a low profile.

03

it's the instinct to lose your temper

it's the ability to keep your temper down

in the book A woman in full bloom in time, there is a story about Li Xiaoyi contradicting his clients.

Li Xiaoyi has an important client, accounting for half of the business volume, but it is very difficult to deal with. The contract has been negotiated more than a dozen times and the plan has been revised dozens of times, but the other party is still dissatisfied and refuses to sign.

seeing that he has been paying for so long, it will come to nothing. Li Xiaoyi was so angry that she said directly on the phone, "your request is particularly unreasonable, and you are also very abnormal. Don't think that Party An is great. I won't serve you anymore."

when she had finished her pleasant words, she began to cry in despair.

because she lost her temper, she paid a huge price. She not only lost her clients, but also was held accountable by her leaders. She became a representative of not losing her temper and a joke in the industry.

I can't keep my temper down, suffering others and suffering myself even more.

there is a Buddhist saying: "when you get angry, you burn Gongderlin."

in the event of a rage, the blessings accumulated in the past disappear immediately.

only those who hold down their temper can have a happy life.

the marriage between Hu Shi and Jiang Dongxiu can be described as "holding hands and growing old together", which is enviable.

Hu Shi is gentle and gentle, Jiang Dongxiu has a fierce temperament, but the marriage between two people who seem to be completely different for so long is largely due to Hu Shi's ability to control his emotions and be tolerant and tolerant everywhere.

once, Hu Shi acted as a matchmaker for Xu Zhimo, which angered Jiang Dongxiu and was severely reprimanded. But instead of arguing with his wife, he went for a walk alone to avoid confrontation.

after feeling stable, he returned home to comfort his wife and wrote a letter to his wife:

I don't want to keep this in mind.So now I'm open to you, even if it's over.

you know that the most sad thing for me personally is to keep the unhappy things in my heart. If I say it now, it will be all right.

after watching Jiang Dongxiu, he smiled knowingly, and the couple got back together.

it's an instinct to lose your temper, and it's an ability to keep it down.

in the face of contradictions and quarrels, the temperature of emotion can only be raised by suppressing the flames of temper.

Napoleon once said:

learning to control emotions is a man's greatest ability.

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capable people know how to keep their temper down and solve problems in a pleasant face; those who are incompetent allow their emotions to hit rock bottom and destroy relationships in fierce conflicts.

those who can control their temper can have long-term happiness.

04

in my memory, Grandpa had a black fan with a poem "Don't be angry":

Life is like a play. It is not easy to help each other to grow old, whether we should cherish it or not.

lose your temper over trifles, think back and think about it. I am not angry when others are angry, and there is no one to replace me when I am so angry.

those who hold a grudge have tortured others as well as themselves.

those who smiled, let others go, and relieved themselves.

Wang Xiaobo once said: "all human suffering is essentially anger at one's own incompetence."

Life is full of spiritual practice. Instead of falling out and getting angry, it is better to practice yourself.

in the troubles of the world, my heart is as calm as water. In every way to create difficulties, sharpen and move forward.

for the rest of my life, grow up quietly, quietly top, and then amaze everyone.