Look at people's strengths, help others with difficulties, and remember people's good points.
Good morning, accompany you to read.
there are three mottos in dealing with people:
look at the long and short, help the difficult and smooth, and remember the good and the bad.
No matter who you are with, you can't do without these three words.
01
look at people's strengths
as the saying goes: gold is not perfect, no one is perfect.
there are no perfect people in the world, but everyone has his own merits.
as the ancients said, "there are all those who use their strengths; if they have their weaknesses, no one can use them in the world."
Don't abandon a person's great beauty with a small evil, and don't completely deny a person because of a small flaw.
"Shangshu" says: "if you do not ask for preparation with others, if you do not check up, you will not be able to do so."
to interact with others, it is better to reflect on yourself than to ask for perfection.
strict self-discipline and leniency to others is a true gentleman.
the world in a man's eyes is actually the projection of his heart.
clinging to other people's shortcomings all day can only show that one's own self-cultivation is not enough.
the most comfortable relationship between people is not to change each other according to their own standards.
but always be tolerant and allow others to be different from themselves.
imperfections meet each other, harmonious but different, this is the real life.
02
help others find it difficult
in ancient times, there was a scholar on his way at night.
I met a man with a lantern in his hand. When he approached, he found that he was blind.
the scholar can't help asking, "Why are you holding a lantern if you can't see it yourself?"
the blind man replied, "if I walk at night with a lamp, others will not bump into me." This not only protects yourself, but also brings light to others. "
between people, they are always mutual.
if you are kind to me, I will be very kind to you.
to help others is to help yourself.
sometimes, your efforts give others great warmth.
there is an old saying: "keep favors on sunny days and borrow umbrellas on rainy days."
everyone has a rainy day without an umbrella, icing on the cake is not necessary, but sending charcoal in the snow saves people from danger.
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the opportunity of life is so magical, thirty years east, thirty years west.
when someone is rich, give him a golden hill; it is better to send him a glass of water when he is in trouble.
people need care and help, and they most cherish the care and help they get in their own predicament.
03
remember the benefits
it is better to remember a person's good than to remember a person's bad.
there is a saying in Cai Gentan: "people must not forget their kindness to me, but their grievances must not be forgotten."
each of us from childhood to big, from birth to death, can not do without the help of others.
often thinking about the benefits of these people, you will feel that you are a happy person.
take the time to hate those annoying things, that is, to punish yourself for other people's mistakes.
I have heard the story of a bowl of noodles:
the girl quarreled with her mother and ran away from home.
when she was hungry, the noodle shop owner kindly gave her a bowl of noodles.
the girl wailed loudly:
the boss she had never met worried that she was hungry;
while her own biological mother told her not to go home.
the girl felt that her mother was inferior to a stranger to her.
the boss said: "I only give you a bowl of noodles, you thank me like this;
your mother has cooked noodles for you for so many years, why don't you thank her?"
Zeng Guofan said, "Don't forget people's great kindness with small grievances."
Don't deny the kindness of others just because of a trifle.
Don't forget the kindness of others for a long time because of a contradiction.
remembering kindness warms the heart, while holding a grudge makes the heart cold.
when the meal is cold, it can be hot again. If the heart is cold, it will be hard to get it back.
forget the unpleasantness and keep the good things in your heart. Your life will be easier.