People who are too kind-hearted are hardly rewarded (depth)

since childhood, we have been taught to be kind.

when you meet someone who is in trouble, come forward to help;

when you meet someone who falls, give him a hand.

but the cruelest part of life is that there is no good reward for good intentions.

how many people try their best to fulfill others, and in the end they will only end up being blamed and hurt.

too kind, sometimes it's a disaster.

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good intentions may not be rewarded.

in life, not everyone knows how to be grateful.

you think your kindness and tolerance can be exchanged for each other's guilt and gratitude.

No one knows that paying blindly to please will only feed those who have no conscience.

even, if you are good enough to be unreserved, he dares to be unscrupulous.

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just like the fable I saw earlier, it is unforgettable for a long time.

A beggar went to a family to beg. The master gave the beggar ten yuan, and the beggar left gratefully.

the next day the beggar came to beg again, and the master still gave him ten yuan.

just like this, it lasted for more than half a year.

one day six months later, the beggar went to the family to beg as usual, but the master gave only five yuan.

unexpectedly, the beggar's face suddenly changed and asked, "you used to give me ten yuan a day, but now you only give me five yuan?"

the owner said painfully, "I recently had a serious illness. I need a lot of money to see a doctor, and I don't have much money."

the beggar was furious and slapped him in the face: "how dare you take my money to see a doctor?"

in daily life, such things are even more common.

Ms. Zhou Cuilan, from Huai'an, Jiangsu Province, found 1700 yuan in cash on her way to selling bean cakes.

after several twists and turns, she finally found the owner Zhou Jiwei and returned all the money. After

, an unexpected scene happened:

Zhou Jiwei insisted that he had lost 8200 yuan and asked Zhou Cuilan to return another 6500 yuan.

also took her to court along with another witness.

at the moment of receiving the summons, Zhou Cuilan said aggrieved: "it is said that good people have good rewards, why do I have to suffer all this?"

Why?

I think it's just human nature. Sometimes the nicer you are to a person, the less that person takes you seriously.

the heart is too soft, it is squeezed as a soft persimmon,

is good-hearted, it is regarded as absent-minded,

is easy to talk, and it is treated as having no temper.

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this is what the old saying goes: "A man is good at being bullied, and a good horse is ridden."

therefore, we need to be kind, but we can't squander our kindness.

otherwise, it will only be gnawed away by life.

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is so kind that he ends up hurting himself.

in life, we often meet such people: every time someone asks him for help, he says yes; every time someone makes him angry, he forgives as soon as he apologizes;

every time he asks for his opinion, he always says "whatever" or "whatever".

for a long time, in the eyes of others, that person has really become a very talkative, no bottom line, obedient person.

in Maugham's novel the Moon and sixpence, there is such a man. He is an unclassy painter-Dirk Stroff.

when he was laughed at by the arrogant Charles, he not only was not angry, but also helped bring the sick Charles home and let his wife take care of him.

when he learned that his wife was cheating on Charles, he was not angry. Instead, he gave up his house to his wife and romantic rival, and said with shame, "I can't expect her to love me as much as I love her." I can't blame her. "

when his wife was abandoned by Charles, he went to see her non-stop, washing, cooking and waiting on her daily life.

in Maugham's own words: "everyone looks down on him because he is too easy to bully."

in life, if kindness is too much, it is weakness.

as mentioned in the "Strange Theory":

the consequence of weakness is that once one day, you can no longer hold up and fall down, those who are "used to" by you will not lend a helping hand, but turn around and push you into the abyss.

this is the darkness of human nature and the indifference of the human heart.

so don't allow yourself to be benevolent without a bottom line and raise a bunch of bloodthirsty white-eyed wolves.

blindly ingratiating, it will only make people think that you are easy to bully.

Mencius has a saying:

roses will not be ravaged at will only with thorns.

it's the same with being a human being.

being a person with a thorn in appearance is the gentlest rule in the adult world.