See clearly, do not expose; hate, do not fall out

when people live a lifetime, we meet all kinds of people.

if someone cherishes you, someone will denigrate you, and someone will ask for it with you, and someone will be tit-for-tat with you.

before being a man, I was too straight and stupid, and I had to explain things to my face, so I often offended people.

after a thousand sails have passed, I found that I know a lot of things in my heart, and there is no need to show it on my face.

when the water is clear, there is no fish, and when the water is clear, there is no fish.

see a person clearly, there is no need to expose; hate a person, there is no need to fall out.

01

you don't have to see through, you don't have to expose the size of the

world. If you meet countless people, you will always meet some unreasonable people who will trouble you.

faced with such a person, if you tear your face with him, you will lose.

Rockefeller said: "the smarter a man is, the more he knows how to be silent, just like ripe rice, hanging ears of rice."

right and wrong, just see clearly, there is no need to waste time and energy to entangle.

it doesn't matter what other people say or do, because justice is in the hearts of the people.

Guo Ziyi, a senior general of the Tang Dynasty, was highly valued because of his stability and ability and outstanding military achievements.

at that time, there was an eunuch named Yu Chaoen, who was very jealous of Guo Ziyi's ability and often slandered him, but failed.

once. Yu Chaoen unexpectedly took advantage of Guo Ziyi to send someone to dig the ancestral grave of the Guo family.

did not think that this matter was soon spread, causing criticism in the court.

when Guo Ziyi's subordinates learned of this, they were even more indignant and wanted to find the theory of Yu Chaoen, but Guo Ziyi stopped it.

instead of being held accountable, Guo Ziyi took all the responsibility, saying:

"I have led the army for many years, but my subordinates have not been disciplined strictly, and they have destroyed many other people's graves. Now that their own graves have been destroyed, it must be retribution."

Guo Ziyi is so magnanimous and tolerant that no one is moved by it.

when Yu Chaoen heard this, he was even more ashamed and stopped fighting Guo Ziyi.

as the saying goes, the depth of water does not speak, people do not speak.

see through, choose to let you, not owe you, just do not want to care;

see through or not expose, choose to tolerate you, not afraid of you, but because of magnanimity.

A lot of things, as long as you know it in your heart, falling out against each other will not only hurt you, but may also cause trouble.

forgive others and forgive others, not only give others a step down, but also give yourself a way back, why not do it?

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if you see clearly, you will despise

there is a saying: "the height of life is not how many things you see clearly, but how many things you despise."

there are many trivialities in the world, everything is concerned about, everything is serious, how to live at ease?

it is good to see clearly that it is not the heart of the people; life is gathered and scattered, and follow the fate at will.

reminds me of Zhang ailing and Yan Ying. When they were at school, they had a very good relationship and were almost inseparable.

Zhang ailing regards Yan Ying as her best best friend. In both marriages, she was Yan Ying's witness.

she even threatened: "Yan Ying is irreplaceable in this world."

but times have changed, and the relationship between the two is not as good as it used to be.

at that time, Zhang ailing was very miserable when she met someone in the United States.

she asked Yan Ying, who was also abroad, for help, but Yan Ying did not lend a helping hand.

even keep boasting to Eileen Chang about how good her life is and how popular she is.

this made Zhang ailing very sad, and she began to alienate Yanying on purpose.

later, Yan Ying wrote a letter to Zhang ailing and said, "I don't know what I did wrong, which made you ignore me."

she thought she was trying to save her feelings, but then she began to boast about how happy her life was, regardless of Zhang ailing's depressed mood at that time.

Zhang ailing was discouraged and saw clearly Yan Ying's disregard for this feeling, so she no longer had any intersection with her.

if you see something clearly, you don't want to say it;

if you look down on it, you don't think it's necessary to say it.

as Haruki Murakami said,

"not all fish live in the same ocean."

some people are destined not to continue to walk.

since this is the case, it is better to get together and break up than fall out into a feud.

Don't take everything too seriously. if you don't agree, you will come, and if you don't agree, you will break up.

03

put aside other people's mistakes and free your own heart

people will encounter all kinds of people and things in this life.

anyone who cares about it will only be tired;

everything will be penny-pinching and asking questions will only disturb the mood.

Taiwan poet Yu Guangzhong and writer Li ao were originally good friends, but later broke up because of disagreements.

Li ao is recalcitrant and often insults and belittles Yu Guangzhong in public, but he has never retorted.

others are complaining for Yu Guangzhong: "he's been picking on you all day, why don't you retort?"

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Yu Guangzhong just said lightly:

"scolding me every day shows that he can't live without me, but I don't care, which proves that I can live without him."

in life, some people, just see clearly, there is no need to fall out;

there are some things, just understand it, there is no need to debunk the argument.