The most correct way to live after middle age: know how to rest.

after a week of hard work, we finally ushered in the weekend. Some people chose to find more beautiful scenery outdoors, while others lay in bed and enjoyed a hard leisure time.

but for most people, they don't really know what real rest is.

what is different from imagination is that every Monday, I see a lot of people sending messages to their moments: "paralyzed" and "sleepy".

it seems to be a common phenomenon that vacation is more tiring than going to work.

English writer Albert has a famous saying: "No one needs a holiday more than a person who has just had a holiday."

I think so.

during the holiday, our aim is not to waste every minute of rest time, such as eating and drinking, lying in bed, staying up late and partying.

however, at the end of the holiday, we all feel more or less tired and anxious about going back to work and life.

"I have to get up early to go to work again", "I haven't regained a good state of mind", "the holiday is too short, I really want to borrow it for another 500 years"...

I look forward to having a good rest every day before the holiday, but instead of having a good rest, I get more tired after the holiday.

I can't play well, and I don't have enough rest.

so what exactly is going to rest?

01

being able to rest is an ability

in this fast-paced society, everything is efficient and convenient.

many people have been busy since they opened their eyes, constantly adapting to their "role acting".

working people squeeze into the crowded subway early on their way to work. Students trot to school while eating breakfast, and old people buy vegetables, cook and pick up grandchildren.

everyone is busy nervously, longing for rest time, but unwittingly wasting time without really relaxing.

so, there is not more time, there is better rest, the quality of rest depends on the way of rest, not the length of time.

Henry Ford once said, "A man who works without rest is like a car without brakes."

the same is true of a person who keeps moving forward and doesn't know how to rest.

A 23-year-old female employee of an Internet company died suddenly in the early hours of the morning on her way home from work.

being so young, it's a pity that I should have had plenty of time to feel this life, but said goodbye early.

according to the Internet Enterprise employee Sleep report, at this stage, 81.4% of Internet employees have poor sleep quality, 71.3% of employees have insomnia, and 51.5% of employees go to bed after 23:00. Their average sleep time is only six or seven hours.

not only Internet employees, but people in all industries are more or less physically and psychologically stressed.

A study in Japan shows that people who work more than 60 hours a week are twice as likely to have acute myocardial infarction as those who work no more than 40 hours.

brain overload, long-term rest time is not enough, stress is too heavy, engulfing our health bit by bit.

Learning to rest has become a compulsory course for all of us.

02

the real rest is not for indulgence

but for better energy

if you want to rest well, you must know what the purpose of rest is.

as Lenin said, "if you don't rest, you won't work."

rest is to maintain a better state of mind and body to move further, rather than blindly letting yourself go and wasting your precious life wantonly.

you know, rest and play are two different things.

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rest is a recovery activity that allows you to store your strength, while play is mainly for entertainment, and the purpose is simply to relieve stress.

people who will rest know how to use their time to bring themselves back to life, while those who will not rest can only get tired as they rest.

in order to maintain his mental state, Roosevelt, no matter how busy, would find a sofa or chair to rest for 20 minutes before meeting guests or giving a speech.

Japanese writer Haruki Murakami, no matter how busy he is, will run for 33 years and take part in marathons many times.

former British Prime Minister Winston Churchill used to take a nap after lunch, even during the second World War.

so how do we rest?

lie in bed and browse your cell phone day after day, stay up late to watch TV dramas.

at the same time, we can not get rid of the attraction of electronic devices, negative and passive rest can only be more and more tired.

"posture" is wrong, rest is in vain.

if you want to really relax, you must learn to rest effectively and don't waste your precious rest time.

03

the really effective rest is to "cross"

, not just sleep and entertainment

you feel tired, but you don't have to stop. Learning to change direction is the best rest.

the real rest is not for you to put down everything at hand and go to sleep with your head covered, but for you to find the right project to switch to rest.

learn these three "cross" breaks to make your rest more efficient.

1. Take the place of passive

what is passive rest?

means recreational activities that don't require too much brain work, such as being in a daze, watching TV, and brushing your cell phone.

what is active rest?

is the entertainment that requires you to consume a certain amount of physical and mental energy, such as playing basketball and climbing mountains.

take a passive rest all the time, then your brain will be in a negative state for a long time, you can only get short-term pleasure, and in the long run, you will feel very bored and can't get a real rest.

but choose more active rest, rest at the same time the brain accepts new information, with new experiences and thinking, it is easier to feel continuous pleasure, thus getting physical and mental relaxation.

for example, change from lying down to going for a walk to get your body moving, or from brushing short videos to shooting short videos to get your brain active.

when we put our energy into doing something, we are more likely to feel happy and really relaxed.

so during the holidays, go out more, move your body, read books that you have never had a chance to read, and use active rest instead of passive rest, you can get more happiness and get enough rest.

2. Rich instead of single

many people have such a feeling: they are enthusiastic at the beginning of the holiday, have a lot of fun playing with their mobile phones, and feel very relaxed.

but as the holidays get longer and longer, we slowly begin to find it less interesting, even a little boring, to play with our phones all the time.

in fact, the essence of rest lies in "crossing".

there is a marginal effect in psychology. If you continuously increase the input of a certain item, the income brought by the investment will gradually decrease.

to put it simply, it is meaningless to read too much.

you feel happy to see variety on the first day of the holiday, but the longer the holiday, the less interested you are.

at this time, if you change your mind to read a book, or go to the gym to exercise, or go to other cities to see the landscape, then the happiness can be brought up immediately.

so, if we want to have a good rest when we rest, we must not do the same thing alone. Sleeping in bed every day, playing with mobile phones every day, shopping every day will only make us more and more tired.

reasonably arrange our rest time, learn to "cross", and try more forms of entertainment to enrich our holidays so that we can have a better rest.

3. Peak instead of mean

the deepest memory in our memory is either the highlight moment of the title or the dark moment of predicament.

what can really enter the depths of our memory is the peak of life or highlight or gray.

if our holiday is always mediocre, without ups and downs, people will feel numb and can't really relax.

A perfect holiday naturally needs a peak to stimulate before you really feel rested, relaxed, and resurrected with blood.

for example, we usually listen to music after work and get ready to go to sleep. At the weekend, we can make an appointment with three or five friends to play mahjong, have a heart-to-heart talk and have a drink.

add a little special flavor to your life, and this holiday can only be regarded as a free holiday.

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Mr. Hu Shi once said, "A person's future depends on how he makes use of his leisure time, which is determined for life."

adjust the pace of life and replace negative indulgence with positive relaxation to keep you energized at any time.

stop working hard. Truly efficient people know how to empower rest, relax when they rest, and do their best when they struggle.

A short relaxation and rest is like a post station on your dream journey. Learn to release the pressure here in order to better start.