To enrich oneself is better than to please others

have you ever had a similar experience in your life:

put others first and never consider your own thoughts;

always blame yourself for not doing well because of other people's mistakes;

dare not refuse other people's requests and lower yourself again and again.

you consider the feelings of others everywhere, but it is not until you are physically and mentally exhausted that you find that you have long lost yourself in the process of pleasing others.

Mr. Yang Jiang said: "We were so looking forward to the recognition of the outside world that we finally knew that the world was our own and had nothing to do with others."

the most important thing in life is not to please others, but to enrich yourself.

Don't chase a horse, use your chase time to recommend it.

when the spring blossoms, there will naturally be a group of horses for you to choose from.

when you start to enrich yourself, everything you want will come because of you.

01

enrich the mind

A writer once compared the human brain to a warehouse, in which the goods are what we have learned.

A person who doesn't like to study, the warehouse will be empty and the whole person will be abandoned slowly.

and those who constantly absorb the nutrition of knowledge, the warehouse will be enriched, and life will become more and more heavy.

Mr. Yang Jiang likes reading since childhood. Her father, Yang Yinhang, once asked her, "what will happen if you are not allowed to study for a week?"

she replied without hesitation, "I've lived for nothing for a week."

for Yang Jiang, reading makes her life colorful and enables her to find her lifelong career: literature.

We all know that Mr. Yang Jiang is not only a writer but also a translator, proficient in English, French and Spanish.

but what many people don't know is that Yang Jiang's Spanish is completely self-taught.

in 1957, a publishing house decided to translate and publish Don Quixote. Yang Jiang was invited to translate because of her good writing style.

in order to translate this work well, Yang Jiang, 48, decided to teach herself Spanish.

she holds the dictionary every day and starts from scratch, word by word.

many times, because there are so many reference materials, she can only spread them out on the bed one by one.

after studying so hard for four years, she thoroughly mastered Spanish.

when Don Quixote translated by Yang Jiang was published in 1978, it was well received and was recognized as the best translation.

it is the continuous learning that never gives up on self-improvement, which makes Yang Jiang a generation of translators.

A rich mind and knowledge is like an anchor in one's mind.

with this anchor, we will be able to resist the winds and waves of the sea and the unpredictable fate.

so don't forget to enrich your brain and hold your anchor at any time.

every book you have read and every bit of knowledge you have learned will be the greatest strength for you to ride the wind and waves.

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02

enrichment pattern

what is a pattern?

Zhihu has such an answer:

the pattern is reflected in the height of a person's goal, the breadth of vision, the depth of thinking, and the leisurely magnanimity embodied in this person.

Mr. Yang Jiang recorded such an experience in his prose.

she has a colleague named Ji Yuanzhang, who participated in the criticism of Yang Jiang in a special era.

later, he was also beaten as a bad element and arrested.

at that time, Ji Yuanzhang had a father lying in a sick bed and a helpless wife at home in the countryside.

the whole family lives on his salary every month, and soon after he fell down, the family was unable to open the pot.

when Yang Jiang knew, instead of gloating, she took the initiative to lend a helping hand.

she took part of her meagre salary and sent it to his home every month until Ji Yuanzhang was released from prison.

in that period when everyone swept the snow in front of his own door, Yang Jiang's assistance saved a shaky family.

this reminds me of what she once said: "at the end of reading, it is for us to understand the world in a more tolerant way."

it is because of this broad mind that she chooses to forgive the people she has hurt.

Professor Chen Guo of Fudan University once said:

if you can maintain an open-mindedness, self-cultivation and demeanor when you are most down and out, when no one can understand you, this is the true kung fu to really see your self-cultivation.

what you put aside is your grudge, but what you feed is your own pattern.

the sea of life, the tide rises and falls.

people who are really mature know how to take a long-term view and no longer cling to the trivialities at hand.

when you learn to open your mind, open your horizons, stand high and overlook life, you can live thoroughly and freely.

only by keeping a big pattern in mind can we live every small day well.

03

enrich life

in life, it is inevitable that there will be times of boredom and boredom.

people who really love life are always undefeated by time and secularity. they can live in spirit and fun no matter when and where they are.

this is the life of Yang Jiang and Mr. Qian Zhongshu, plain and rich.

when you are busy, under the same roof, Qian Zhongshu writes hard at the other end, and Yang Jiang reads quietly in this corner.

in their spare time, they cut each other's hair and often go out to explore together.