To myself: as I walked, I suddenly understood

from geometry, the books I have read have different feelings; for those who once cared, goodbye has been quiet; all that I have failed to let go, looking back, has been wiped by the years, blurred.

as Zhuang Xinyan sings in the song: "some people break up when they walk, and some things fade away when they look at it."

things in the world, with the passage of time, many reasons suddenly become clear as we walk.

01

all relationships pay attention to each other's fate

when people reach a certain age, they will understand that not every relationship can go to the end, nor will it get results every time they give.

youdao is predestined to meet each other for thousands of miles, but not to meet each other.

if there is no fate, even if you are full of TA, you can only watch each other drifting away, and everything about TA has nothing to do with you.

Mr. Jin Yong, who once wrote countless "love but not" mournful love, has also experienced a period of regret.

that year, the popular actor Xia Meng, with elegant temperament and bright smile, fell into Jin Yong's eyes like stars.

in 1957, in order to get close to Xia Meng, Jin Yong went to great lengths to join Xia Meng's film and television company.

in order to win the favor of Xia Meng, he worked very hard. In just two or three years, he tailored several scripts for Xia Meng, such as "Beauty of the Best Generation" and "King Tiger robbing relatives", and laughed that he did not do as much for Qiu Xiang as Tang Bohu.

talented scholars and beauties are supposed to be "golden wind and jade dew meet, but there are countless worlds", but because of the word "fate", the two cannot love each other after all.

at that time, Xia Meng had been married for several years. In the face of Jin Yong's confession, Xia Meng could only apologize:

one was not married, and even if they admired each other, they could not begin.

in this way, this relationship without fate has turned into a melancholy that "it is better not to talk about it".

I have loved, cried, made trouble, and laughed before I realized that there is a feeling that two feelings are pleasing to each other, but there is no fate; it is over before it begins.

in a relationship, the greatest regret is not being loved.

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experience will understand that love without fate, even if you try your best to go, you can only get a sigh.

02

all flukes are secretly marked with a price

I have seen such a story.

there are two monks living in a temple in a high mountain.

one day, the old monk asked the young monk to go down the mountain to buy rice. it wasn't long before the little monk went out and bought it back. The old monk was surprised and asked, "it usually takes a whole day to go back and forth. Why is it so fast this time?"

the young monk said proudly:

the old monk listened and discouraged the young monk from taking this shortcut next time. Although the original road was a little farther, it was still safe.

the little monk promised, but every time he went down the mountain, he still chose the dangerous but relatively short way.

whenever the old monk reminds him, he thinks to himself:

until once, when the young monk was walking on a shortcut and there was a sudden mountain torrent upstream, he was swept away by the mountain torrent before he could escape.

Life is like this. If you take a chance and take a shortcut, even if you achieve temporary success, you will eventually pay the price.

because all luck is like a big bet on yourself, the difference is that this bet often ends in failure.

Austrian writer Zweig once said:

on the road of life, no one is the darling of fate.

on a rainy night without an umbrella, there is little chance of bumping into a warm-hearted person, and the chance of luck is far less than 1/10000.

those lucky things will eventually make us pay a corresponding price in the future.

the greatest wisdom is to let go of luck and keep your feet on the ground.

03

all roads can only go forward alone

Mr. Lu Xun wrote in "Little Miscellaneous feelings":

in life, everyone is an independent individual and has an independent soul, and no one will ever be able to personally experience the feelings of others, and no one will be able to move forward for others.

even relatives and friends are only out of comfort or sympathy for each other.

all the roads, I have no choice but to clench my teeth.

Hideko Yamashita, the founder of the concept of "breaking up" and subverting the concept of life for millions of people, also hit rock bottom because of dissatisfaction in work and life.

at first, she tried to ask her friends and relatives for help, hoping that someone could understand her and help her.

however, the facts do not go as one wishes.

she had no choice but to go to the temple to practice alone to find a way out of the predicament.

when the monk handed her the monk's clothes, she suddenly realized that she could need so few things.

since then, the concept of "separation" has taken shape in her mind.

it's just that the road is still lonely. She told this concept to her relatives and friends, hoping to get their support.

however, once again, the outcome backfired, few of her friends understood, and even her mother did not support her.

once, in the process of insisting on "breaking up", Hideko Yamashita mistakenly lost her newly bought books along with some unnecessary books.

No matter how Yoshiko Yamashita felt, her mother scolded her and told her that her divorce was doomed to failure.

in this way, Hideko Yamashita carried all the incomprehension alone until the book "break up" was a hit, and the concept was gradually accepted by the public.

the writer's canoe once said in Stars in the Deep Sea:

this is always the case in the world. The empathy you think is just a mirage, and there are very few people who patiently listen to you say "pain".

after experiencing the loneliness that is not understood, I know that all the difficult moments can only be carried on step by step by myself.

04

all happiness comes from inner contentment

Mr. Yang Jiang once said:

it is true that fate will not put all the "good" on one person, and everyone's life is more or less regrettable.

the difference is that contented people will look at what they have and thank God from the bottom of their heart, while discontented people will look at what they don't have, secretly compare, and lose alone.

Hu Jiushao, a famous ideologist of the Ming Dynasty, is an example of contentment.

when he was young, in order to support his family, he had to teach in private schools and work in the fields. Compared with most people, his life was very difficult.

but he still doesn't complain, and even appreciates the blessings he has been given to him every day.

for this reason, his wife often complained about him: "three meals a day are vegetable porridge, what is Qingfu?"

Hu Jiushao said like this:

in the same situation, some people feel happy while others feel poor.

know that true happiness never comes from the outside, but from your heart.

as the English poet John Dryden said:

this is the so-called contentment.

like Bo Ji, the mother of the Emperor of the Han Dynasty in history, she is not jealous of the power of Lu Phea and does not envy the love that Mrs. Qi has received. She is content to be with her son Liu Heng.

so she lived in seclusion, kept a low profile, did not fight for power and profit, and became the one who came to the end.

in life, no matter what situation you are in, comparison will give rise to a lot of trouble.

people who are discontented have endless worries, even if they are rich in food and clothing.

those who know how to be contented, poor or rich, have a rich heart and become a universe of their own.

King David of Judah engraved an inscription on the ring: "everything will pass."

I think so. In life, all experiences, good or bad, are temporary.

those tangled things, people who love but cannot be crossed, will eventually be washed by the waves of time and become pebbles in the land and sea of our lives, such as pearls like jade.

as we walk along this section of the road, we will understand that

people live a lifetime and worry about themselves, and all the gifts of the years will become experience and wisdom with the passage of time.